Given the choice between a successful career or being a loyal caregiver to her mother, 91大黄鸭 resident Marinella Berretti was lucky to find a way to do both.
While working as an administrative assistant at Falcon Engineering, Berretti鈥檚 been trying to help her mother, Maruska, 84 who has been in and out of the hospital since December, with broken bones, ischaemic colitis and is now back in hospital with pneumonia.
鈥淚t鈥檚 very hard when you are the only caregiver鈥� I am the only sibling here in 91大黄鸭,鈥� said Berretti, who has siblings in Edmonton and Toronto. 鈥淪he鈥檚 my mother I want to do what is best for her.鈥�
The stress to balance her time at work, while ensuring her mother receives proper treatment in an assisted living home feels like a full time job for Berretti.
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The assisted living homes her mother has lived in have treated her well but, with staff being 鈥渟pread so thin鈥� her mother was seeing a different doctor almost every day, medications and treatment recommendations would vary.
鈥淥ne (doctor) would say put her on oxygen, and then two days later she would be told to go off it by another,鈥� Berretti said.
To ensure her mother was getting the proper care, Berretti started ensuring she was able to check in the the doctors regularly which crept into her work hours.
鈥淚 would try to work with the doctors to meet with them on my lunch hours but it wasn鈥檛 working, so I had to talk to my employer. They are so supportive, but it鈥檚 really stressful. I feel like even though they are okay with me leaving to talk to the doctors and help her I feel that I am taking too much,鈥� Berretti said.
Turning to the Home Instead Senior Care once she was able to bring her mother home from the hospital has been 鈥渁 God send鈥� along with the help of her boss.
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鈥淚t is so hard to juggle and without the support I am getting it would have been a lot harder, I am quite lucky that I have a good company and employer that cares about me,鈥� Berretti said.
Home Instead sees daughters with young families of their own to take care of, becoming the sole caregiver of their aging parents. After conducting a survey, amongst female caregivers between the ages of 45 and 60 in the U.S and Canada, Home Instead found that 91 per cent of female caregivers have had make professional sacrifices to take on the responsibility of caring for their parents.
鈥淗alf of the women surveyed felt they had to choose between being a good employee or a good daughter,鈥� read the findings.
Berretti was lucky however to have an employer that is so understanding. Home Instead takes care of their clients either by hourly or daily rates
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鈥淲e provide a little bit of a light at the end of the tunnel for women like Marinella, because it is a 24/7 job, there is no relief to it and it is very frustrating for them,鈥� Don Henke, franchise owner of Home Instead said. 鈥淒aughters end up taking care of their parents more than sons, it has generally been the role. It shouldn鈥檛 be that way but it鈥檚 a gender role that has been a reality. Lots of men are involved but not to the extent where the daughters are.鈥�
Human life expectancy rising along with medical advances people are living six years longer than they would have before 1981 according to Statistics Canada, most people now live well beyond the age of 75.
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