It鈥檚 important to live, not simply endure, regardless of our age.

It鈥檚 a message central to Okanagan author Ralph Milton latest book, .

Following a life-long career in publishing, Well Aged is Milton鈥檚 25th book and one he writes from personal experience 鈥� told with humour and backed by personal research.

鈥淚t鈥檚 a book I rather fell into,鈥� Milton says.

When he and his wife, Beverley, moved into 91大黄鸭鈥檚 Dorchester retirement residence, their previous experience had been largely with the younger senior demographic 鈥� say, 55 to 75 year olds 鈥� a demographic also reflected in much of the available literature.

While the 80-plus age group is the fastest-growing demographic, it鈥檚 essentially invisible in the media, Milton notes. Well Aged aims to close some of that gap.

Published by Douglas McIntyre, both seniors and adult children are enjoying the book. 鈥淚 have been astounded by the response,鈥� Milton says.

An insider鈥檚 take on life among the old

鈥淲ell Aged offers a candid, useful and entertaining insider鈥檚 take on life among the old,鈥� the publisher writes. This isn鈥檛 the recently retired, 鈥渆njoying Arizona winters and unlimited golf, but those in their last years, usually in the 80- to 100-year-old bracket.鈥�

Written 鈥渇or the oldest of the old. Or for their families and care givers,鈥� this 鈥渋s a free wheeling, down-to-earth, inside look at what it鈥檚 really like to be old, written by-an insider and sprinkled liberally with humour.鈥�

Among the many topics covered are: identity and independence; choosing a retirement location among the options of independent living, retirement residences and nursing homes; personal health needs and priorities; community support, friendships and recreation; spirituality and religion; intimacy, companionship, sexuality and homosexuality; loneliness, depression and frailty; and leaving a legacy and end of life arrangements.

Chatting with many of his fellow residents, Milton learned about their varied life experiences, challenges and joys later in life.

What he learned may surprise younger readers.

鈥淏eing old is OK,鈥� he says. While adaptations for health issues typically come with advanced years, 鈥渄eath is not the worst thing that can happen to you, and it no longer has to be the long, painful experience it sometimes was.鈥�

While old age can bring challenges, it can also be delightful, Milton argues, pointing out that reported happiness levels are greatest in their 80s. As pressures to perform fade, people choose to embrace shared experiences and put aside differences. 鈥淵ou realize how much you need community,鈥� he says.

Our need to be social came into sharp focus during the pandemic, when at the outset seniors were confined to their homes, or in the case of those in retirement residences, to their suites.

鈥淭he greatest health risk people have is loneliness. It provides the groundwork so other diseases can take hold.鈥�

Milton also points to the central metaphor in the book title.

As good wine grows more mellow with age, and more tasty, platinum is more valuable than gold, and while also softer and more malleable, is more easily damaged.

Well Aged the book is available . To further explore some of these key issues discussed in the book, Milton has also launched the .