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B.C. couple who has raised 58 children turns to community amid cancer diagnosis

Family who raised, fostered and adopted many kids hoping to gain some precious together time to fight cancer
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A small part of the Moore family, with Stacey and Cary in the centre. Cary is holding Maggie, who they鈥檝e adopted. Their biological daughters, Cassie and and Amara and their adopted son, Billy. (Candace Fast photo)

Stacey and Cary Moore are big on family. Really big.

The Chilliwack couple has raised an impressive 58 children over several decades, between their two biological daughters, Amara and Cassie, foster children, and those they鈥檝e adopted. It鈥檚 a jaw-dropping number, and some have been with them longer than others 鈥 but they can recall every single one of them.

鈥淲e鈥檙e a busy household,鈥 Stacey says, as their seven-year-old daughter Maggie zooms around their living room. Maggie is globally delayed and despite her size is developmentally a two-year-old. She was one of their many foster children, and they adopted Maggie soon after she came to them.

But now, that happy, busy lifestyle has been slowed almost to a halt.

Earlier this year, Stacey was diagnosed with multiple myeloma, a form of bone cancer. Cancer cells have been found in high concentration in her bone marrow, and she鈥檚 currently undergoing treatment to extend her lifespan.

But it鈥檚 not a cure.

鈥淭here is no cure,鈥 Cary explains. 鈥淏ut if this is not working, we can try other things.鈥

She is in chemotherapy treatments these days, and stem cell therapy will happen later this year.

Whatever comes in the next few months, they want to get through it as a family. And that鈥檚 going to mean Cary stays off work as a flight attendant. It鈥檚 a change that鈥檚 going to cut deep into their finances for that loss of income and benefit coverage.

And while initially he didn鈥檛 want to ask the community for donations, the reality of the level of care needed in their home began to sink in. They are a Level 2 foster care home through the Ministry of Families and Children, with training requirements for themselves and any caregivers they bring in.

鈥淚n order for us to have any reprieve, it鈥檚 a challenge,鈥 Cary says. 鈥淲e can鈥檛 just have anyone in here.鈥

They are also a 鈥淪afe Baby鈥 home through the ministry, and have had many babies, and children with special needs, come to stay with them. On average, a child stays about two years. They also spend a lot of time with the families of the children they care for, getting to know and helping with eventual replacing them into their family鈥檚 home.

鈥淪ome of them we see still, and some we don鈥檛,鈥 he adds. One of their sons, Andrew, died tragically two years ago at age 26.

They have done so much for Chilliwack鈥檚 children, that their church and family and friends urged them to go along with a GoFundMe fundraiser. Cary has already been off work a lot through their cancer journey.

Stacey鈥檚 illness started to manifest itself with an intense earache that wouldn鈥檛 go away 鈥 even with antibiotics. She says she had been getting giant cold sores, and was feeling more and more ill. Her eardrum finally burst, and she was in excruciating pain. Bedridden with vertigo, the once vibrant mom who could handle anything had to lean against Cary鈥檚 back to be piggybacked to the bathroom.

When an ENT looked at her, they recall, he said 鈥榯hat doesn鈥檛 look right.鈥

鈥淭he vertigo was so bad, I could not even stand,鈥 she says.

It wasn鈥檛 long before they were whisked into the world of cancer care. They remain hopeful, and as Christians are using their faith for strength and courage.

They are trying to balance their busy life with caring for Stacey as well now. It鈥檚 not as if they can send their children elsewhere, they say.

鈥淭hat鈥檚 our life,鈥 Stacey says. 鈥淭hey鈥檙e our kids. You can鈥檛 bubble wrap everything, you can鈥檛 put your kids in a Ziploc bag.鈥

They started fostering in 1990, the same year they married. It was an easy life choice for Cary, who was raised by his parents in a very similar household.

鈥淚 was already exposed to the need,鈥 says Cary.

鈥淚 was very naive,鈥 Stacey adds. But she knew she had a bigger purpose in life. They go to a missions-minded church, and she has been to places like Africa and Haiti to help communities there.

鈥淏ut I鈥檝e always asked myself 鈥榳hat else should I be doing?鈥欌 she says. 鈥淚鈥檓 living my passion, which is giving back to my community.鈥

In addition to the GoFundMe page, Cary has been keeping a regular blog of their medical updates on a private Facebook page. They are sharing photos, stories, hopes and fears. They鈥檙e teaching people about multiple myeloma, which isn鈥檛 genetic and is generally a cancer that older people get.

鈥淚鈥檓 only 42,鈥 Stacey says. 鈥淚 just feel that I鈥檓 too young.鈥

Their GoFundMe account is called. As of Saturday afternoon $14,000 of the $50,000 goal had been raised.

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Jessica Peters

About the Author: Jessica Peters

I began my career in 1999, covering communities across the Fraser Valley ever since.
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