Going through a break up sucks, it鈥檚 a messy emotional roller coaster. Trust me, I know how it feels. It can feel like everything inside you is breaking, your emotions run wild and your heart physically begins to hurt. I know this feeling all to well and I am sure you are familiar with it too. It hurts like hell.
It鈥檚 painful, especially the day after the breakup. Whether you鈥檝e been broken up with or you鈥檙e the one who broke things off, it still cuts deep. You cry yourself to sleep and you continue into that solemn slumber right into the next day. You are consumed by dreams that deceive you into thinking this isn鈥檛 reality and that this isn鈥檛 actually happening. Friends and family check in on you but you ignore their texts. You hope to God that he will text you saying he鈥檚 changed his mind. Yet, as the days pass by slowly, that doesn鈥檛 happen.
You begin to ask yourself negative questions like 鈥淎m I not worth it?鈥� or 鈥淲hy does this hurt so much?鈥�
You begin to question your self-worth, which is a dangerous road to go down. This can be devastating.
Right now, you鈥檙e hurting and your heart is aching and you鈥檙e tempted to text him or you begin to look at old photos of you both together. You thought this would make things better but you end up feeling worst than before.
Let me tell you something, it鈥檚 okay to hurt and cry.
You鈥檙e mourning, so let yourself feel those emotions. Don鈥檛 suppress them because eventually you will explode and hurt those close to you. I鈥檝e been where you are, in fact, I am still there, with a grieving heart. Healing is slow and it takes a lot of patience but I want to list some ways I am coping in hopes to encourage others in their own journey.
- Cry, cry it out and let it hurt. Feel those emotions. But after a while, be careful though because you don鈥檛 want to live in that pain.
- Be kind, be present and love others unconditionally. This is so healing! Loving others through your pain shows so much strength.
- Don鈥檛 isolate yourself. Talk about it with your mentor or close friends and family. Talking about it helps so much!
- Pour yourself into your passions. Don鈥檛 give up on the things you love doing. For me, I鈥檓 focusing on my writing. This is something I highly suggest, it鈥檚 not only distracting but it helps you stay focused and motivated.
- Believe you will heal; believe you will get through this and grow from this pain. Believe you are strong, valued and loved.
Remember, you will not feel this way forever. This is just a season and you will overcome this trial. You are going to be okay.
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About Lizzie Skelton:
I鈥檓 a fourth-year University student at UBCO.
My goal is to one day go into journalism at UBC Vancouver.
I want to eventually write about controversial and political topics.
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